Birding Brings Joy Amidst Pain for My Black Family

Every day brings a struggle to preserve the light in my children’s eyes from a growing awareness that dims it

Dara T. Mathis
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4 min readJul 1, 2020

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3 young Black children seen from behind, looking out the window at grass and a road.
Photo: Dara T. Mathis

Like a mother bird tending her chicks in spring, I have largely occupied myself during the Covid-19 pandemic with caring for my three small children. I am thankful my husband can work from home as I write freelance and manage the kids’ homeschooling. We began to notice the birds trilling amid the tree blossoms as April gave way to May.

Our feathered friends are a delight. When we observe them, we forget why we are cooped up in the house. Watching birds with my children gives me respite from the anxiety of being Black during a pandemic that has disproportionately killed Black people. It’s also provided openings to help my kids process the social unrest rocking the country.

My own emotions dart away before I can identify them by name, much like the brown birds hovering near my window. So I reach instead for joy.

The time my family has spent at home over the last three months has made us look out the window to see jogging strangers, familiar birds — anything but these four walls. My little brood dabbles…

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Dara T. Mathis
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Dara T. Mathis is a parenting writer who is interested in the intersection of parenthood with race and gender. But mostly, she loves a good story.